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The Ones They Love The Most

Posted by michelesaffier on May 9, 2012 at 10:39 am

They Walk the earth wrecking the ones they love the most
Careless in their actions, thoughtless in their deeds
They seem to be unscathed, unlike the ones they love the most
Going about their day professing regret
Being patient, as the confessor praying for absolution
They walk the earth reflecting on their past transgressions
As if talking will somehow change the [...]

Workshop for Partners of Sex Addicts in Philadelphia

Posted by michelesaffier on March 15, 2012 at 5:13 am

Hope and Healing:

A Workshop for Partners

Partners of sex addicts live with extreme pain, anger, shame and even trauma as a result of loving someone whose behaviors are out of control. This workshop is designed for those struggling with a myriad of feelings as they cope with their partners’ sex addiction. In a safe [...]

The Truth and It’s Consequences in Considering Forgiveness

Posted by michelesaffier on December 6, 2011 at 1:42 pm

Twenty-six months into “recovery” a partner states she continues to feel a deep sadness, is tiring of the continued sense of fear she often pushes back, and cannot stop noticing her husband working not to “notice” attractive women.

The partner is seated in the crook of her betraying husbands arm appearing comfortable, safe, loving and loved.  [...]

Forgiveness, Healing, Exoneration and Reconciliation

Posted by michelesaffier on June 11, 2011 at 7:22 pm

What does it mean to forgive someone who has lied or broken emotional, religious, ethical and verbal vows?  What does it mean to forgive someone who has emotionally, verbally, sexually, spiritually abused another?  How can one be expected to forgive  the unforgivable?  How can forgiveness be suggested to the victim of such behavior?  Can a murderer [...]

Reflections on Recovery

Posted by michelesaffier on May 18, 2011 at 6:46 pm

Having worked with hundreds of couples, addicts and partners in my over 15 years of specializing in sex addiction treatment, I notice the following:
The sex addicts’ progress in recovery is directly related to how hard the addict works. Recovery from sex addiction requires 100% time and effort as this is a well entrenched life long [...]