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		<title>The Truth and It&#8217;s Consequences in Considering Forgiveness</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Dec 2011 20:42:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Twenty-six months into &#8220;recovery&#8221; a partner states she continues to feel a deep sadness, is tiring of the continued sense of fear she often pushes back, and cannot stop noticing her husband working not to &#8220;notice&#8221; attractive women.


The partner is seated in the crook of her betraying husbands arm appearing comfortable, safe, loving and loved.  [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Differing Realities</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 20 Jul 2011 02:46:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[A partner  (whom I will call Sandy) once told me that, prior to her husband&#8217;s disclosure to her of his many affairs, she was a confident, strong, compassionate and tender mother, friend, daughter and wife.  Her husband, she noticed, was often angry and withdrawn, over-worked and over-giving to his clients as he was often working late [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Forgiveness, Healing, Exoneration and Reconciliation</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 12 Jun 2011 02:22:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[What does it mean to forgive someone who has lied or broken emotional, religious, ethical and verbal vows?  What does it mean to forgive someone who has emotionally, verbally, sexually, spiritually abused another?  How can one be expected to forgive  the unforgivable?  How can forgiveness be suggested to the victim of such behavior?  Can a murderer [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Reflections on Recovery</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 19 May 2011 01:46:47 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Having worked with hundreds of couples, addicts and partners in my over 15 years of specializing in sex addiction treatment, I notice the following:
The sex addicts&#8217; progress in recovery is directly related to how hard the addict works. Recovery from sex addiction requires 100% time and effort as this is a well entrenched life long [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Tips for Saving Your Marriage</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 27 Apr 2011 00:56:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Having worked with hundreds of couples in failing marriages due to infidelity (masturbation with pornography is a betrayal) since 1993, following are the top 10 behaviors the &#8220;betrayer&#8221; can do to restore trust and promote the healing of complex wounds of the betrayed partner-
1.  Have gratitude every day that your partner has stayed with [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Who is the addict in this relationship, anyway?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 19 Oct 2010 21:31:10 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sex addicts usually seek help because their behavior has caused deep harm to themselves, their partners, their family.  Sex addicts come to the office overwhelmed with shame, self-hatred, out-of-control obsession and an inability to stop acting out.  They feel possessed.  They are grasping at any lifeline they can find to get  ahold of themselves.  Obsession and compulsion have [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Empathy: The elusive emotion</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Aug 2010 03:19:23 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>michelesaffier</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[ Can addicts develop empathy?  Do addicts naturally have empathy but are so self-focused they refuse to see their partners feeling side of an issue?  Is it appropriate to expect my addict partner to empathize with my pain?  As a sex addict should I have the capacity for empathy &#8211; and if I don&#8217;t is there something wrong [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Sexual Acting Out is NOT an expression of Love</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 29 Jul 2010 02:25:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[A &#8220;healthy&#8221; expression of love involves safety, trust, holding the other as dear and precious as well as maintaining a balanced sense of give and take in relation to a valued other.  Love involves the experience of truly knowing and holding the other spiritually, emotionally and physically.  Love deepens over time as a couple grows to understand [...]]]></description>
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		<title>&#8220;I Feel Like a Fool For Staying&#8221;</title>
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		<comments>http://traumahealingpa.com/msaffier-blog/i-feel-like-a-fool-for-staying#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 27 Jul 2010 15:08:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>michelesaffier</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[At one time or another in treatment, a partner of a sexual compulsive (addict) will say in a moment of deep despair &#8220;I feel like a fool for staying&#8221;.  What is she really saying?  What is the deeper  meaning beneath her words?  For many &#8220;I feel like a fool&#8230;&#8221; is an expression of a complexity of [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Questions: Helpful or Harmful?</title>
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		<comments>http://traumahealingpa.com/msaffier-blog/questions-helpful-or-harmful#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Jun 2010 02:45:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>michelesaffier</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I am reminded of the AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) slogan "One drink is too much and a thousand are never enough".  When the discovery of your partners' secret life is uncovered asking questions about the behavior is the surest method for feeling safe...]]></description>
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